When I do find a lawyer who will take me on contigency regarding problems with my mother's estate, I am afraid that I will need to begin posting about the estate case. The estate being my adoptive mother's.
The reason I would need to post what is happening with the legal case against my mother's estate is that I am physically afraid of the Personal Representative for my mother's Estate. That PR would be my brother.
There are some valid reasons to re-open my mother's estate, amongst them failure to list known assets on the Inventory, and failure to file an income tax return. Dipping into the till can get a Personal Representative into trouble and I tried to deal with the matter out of court.
However, when the Personal Representative of my mother's estate was informed about my attempts to obtain the bank statements and copies of the cancelled checks for the estate, I was told no, that I received a certain sum of cash, and that there was a ten percent estate administrator's fee.
In South Carolina, there is a five percent maximum allowable fee for administering an Estate.
Additionally, I received $8,000.00 less than the sum of cash quoted me.
But the final accounting my brother filed with the Probate Court indicated a much different set of numbers than the numbers that my brother indicated to our father (the go-between).
Just after my mother died in March 2000, both my brothers asked me to disclaim my entire share of her estate. When I refused, I was ordered to leave her house by 7 am the following morning and should I refuse, I would be thrown into jail.
This action, coupled with the fact my brother beat up our mother in 1997 (and she took him to court), along with certain other facts, causes me to be afraid.
And on December 9, I became afraid of my stepmother. I have posted only the primary point of the argument--not other, secondary things we also argued about on December 9, 2003.
The reason why she and my father came to my doorstep are not as important as the fact that they arrived on my doorstep intending to yell at me.
They informed me that they wished to yell at me. I refused them entry into my apartment.
Yelling is how my father and stepmother resolve what my stepmother refers to as "his child problems".
After repeatedly refusing the couple entry into my apartment, my stepmother referred to me as 'despicable'.
The reasons for my refusing the couple entry into my apartment because my father, a heart patient, prefers yelling as his method of dealing with his children.
I felt that allowing him and my stepmother entry into my apartment would be tantamount to giving the my father free license to yell for as long as he pleases--and there would be no witnesses to the argument while we were behind a closed door.
As a compromise, my father and stepmother then chose to yell at me from the hallway. This time, there is a witness who can verify all the remarks my stepmother told me (upon questioning at a later date, my stepmother usually denies making certain remarks to me, and has the guts to call me a liar to my face).
Further, I do not have a phone inside my apartment and since neither my father nor my stepmother carried a cell phone with them, should my father have required emergency help (his makes no secret about how serious his heart problems are), without a phone, there would have been no way to phone for assistance.
On December 9, my stepmother, as in a similar yelling incident directed at me which took place on October 21, 2003 (a Tuesday) behind the closed door of her home, showed no concern that her husband was yelling continually until his face got beet red.
With each of my father's heart attacks being precluded by his yelling at one of his biological children (I am the adopted offspring), am I right in thinking that my stepmother tried to place blame onto me should my father have suffered a heart attack while he was yelling at me on December 9?
She knows very well that he prefers to utilize the Yelling Technique.
There were other things mentioned on December 9 that I shan't, at this time, post here. I did write down what happened on December 9, 2003, and I also wrote down the events of October 21, 2003 which occurred at my stepmother's home.
As a result of both the March 2003 throwing-out-of-the home incident (given by my brothers), and of the October 21, 2003 incident, I am afraid to be behind closed doors with both my brothers, my father and my stepmother. Where my father goes, she goes and since the late 1990's, my stepmother has not allowed me to have an unsupervised visit with my father).
My stepmother also does not allow my father to have an unmonitored phone conversation with me, and I am quite tired of her disclosing to her friends and family my personal information (like finances and personal problems) that I tell my father in confidence.
Maybe I deserved some of my stepmother's remarks. Maybe I didn't.
Maybe I don't have the best of relationships with my family because of certain behaviors quite prevalent (not including the estate problems) with many members of my family.
Yelling at me is one of those behaviors. So maybe I chose to avoid my family as much as possible.
If I choose to disclose such personal information about myself, I will do so myself.
In reading back over the last few paragraphs, I see that by posting this entry, I am disclosing information about my stepmother. I am confused now, but I can not tell about the fight without disclosing what went on.
Many people in my family choose to utilize the "delete as much information as possible in order to make us look good" technique when re-telling an event.
Many people in my family choose to utilize the criticize every decision technique as well. Every decision that I make for myself is criticized.
[On October 21, 2003, when I stated to my father that I was intending to obtain a Geography/Anthropology degree, I was met with scorn--and a ten minute yell-fest while my father was driving from my home to my stepmother's home (I checked the clock). Blah! I'm an adult and if I choose to major in geography/anthropology that is my choice.]
Good thing I have not yet mentioned a word about the patents I plan on filing. I do not have the cash to file the patents (there are five applications that I have filled out, ready to go).
But when I obtain the money for filing the patent, you betcha I'm gonna file!
By the way, my father worked with the Patent & Trademark Office for forty years. With my family's penchant for criticizing everything I do and say, and with my family's penchant for criticizing every job that I take, I do not plan on mentioning my patent applications until such time as I am awarded the patent (or sell the patent).
I do need to get a move on with these patents, as patents are considered intellectual property. More to the point, patents are considered assets and the rights can be assigned in part or in whole, ordered sold (divorce), and divided or inherited (again in parts or in whole), just like real estate and other assets.
When a person files a patent with the USPTO, from four to six weeks later, there comes in the mail a very important acknowledgement receipt.
With USPTO receipt in hand, I can market the patent to corporations or to venture capitalists. Yeah!